My Digital World

Last night, I chatted with Henry about his previous relationship. It starts when I ask him why his current girlfriend calls him so many times. In the afternoon his girlfriend will give him a call. And at night, she will ring him again. During the day, Henry will be spammed by his girlfriend's sms. If I have such a girlfriend, then I might kill myself. :P Henry says, that I will be fine since you will get used of it.

It is very interesting to see the difference in relationship of the Western and the Asian culture. Here, in The Netherlands, we like to be free when we are in relationship. We both appreciate and understand each others way of life. There is no need to call 24h/7days/52weeks/12months. In Asia, no call can be missed. Besides, the Asian girls want you to become mr. Perfect. Henry says that you must get A++ for all the things you for her. If you dare to get a A+, then you can smell the fire on the root. Now, I just realise why the Singaporean girls have the 5C's requirements. The 5 C's are just a warming up or the "Yes, I do!" contract that we, as men, have to sign for suffering of our whole life.

I notice also that I am totally not ready to start any potential relationships. This is not because I don't to suffer, but it is that I do not find any girl who I like to suffer for. Henry admires me of my dreams. I have a goal in my life, which he says it is a good thing. Many people will stuck in usual pattern: gf, saving, house, saving marriage, saving, kids and so on....

What is his and her story about? Well, last night talk, I explore more and more about Henry previous relationship. I do have a lot of pity for his ex-girlfriend. The breakup is because Henry cannot stand out of how his ex-girlfriend is. In relationship, you really need to know how to cherish each other. From my personal environment, I see many breakups because one cannot accept or want to give each other (anymore). There are things in life that you cannot change. No matter how hard you try. This has to do with the way how you are educated or in the environment you have grown up. I do think it is a great pity for Henry and for his ex that their relationship reached the destination. But when Henry says that his current relationship is better than the previous one, this end might be good for him and hopefully also for his ex. I really want to help his ex to get out of the bad things she suffer. But this is actually not my business.....